how's married life

the marriage/engagement cycle is one that leads to such cliche questions from everyone around you.  when we first got engaged we were constantly asked "hows wedding planning?"  

of course you always answer like a sweet person and say "ohhh its going well, can't wait for the big day to be here" or something dumb like that that is a huge lie.  if you wanted to answer honestly it would sound something like "its miserable, its not a sweet time, it is completely overwhelming, i'm tired of deciding between twine or ribbon, my head hurts, i can't sleep, i need more xanax, etc. etc."  

so now that were married the common question that comes is "hey, how are you, how's married life?"  and how do we respond "oh its great, really its great."  sure marriage is great, but here's my answer.  my real answer.  my non fluffy answer.

it is great.  jonathan is wonderful.  i am glad we're married.  but more than anything it is an adjustment.  it is a process of relearning someone you thought you knew even after dating for 7 years.  its learning that the way you do things is not the only way to do things.  

ive started to learn that just because i've done things the way ive done them for 24 years doesn't mean that's the only or right way to do them.  i've started to learn that a man just thinks differently than a woman.  i've started to learn sanctification.

marriage is meant to sanctify jonathan and i both for God's glory.  God takes our weaknesses and bad qualities and shows them to us so blatantly clear in our faces and then challenges us to change so we can be the best spouse possible.  marriage is about adjustment and sanctification.

so that's marriage.  dirty dishes, dog crap on the floor, bloodshot eyes...laughing in bed at night until were convulsing and crying, falling asleep on the couch, and leaving sweet notes to wake up to.  that's marriage.